Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Don't Worry, Guys: Testosterone Is Not Bad

If you are the typical twentysomething male, then you have probably been told the following repeatedly in some form:

a) testosterone is bad
b) guys should always be more sedate
c) guys should be more like girls
d) testosterone is bad.

Included somewhere in this list of propositions are the ideas that it is bad for boys to be active and squirmy, that it is bad for boys to laugh and make fun of each other and generally carry on, and that it is bad for boys to be inquisitive. These propositions are all wrong. They are flat wrong. Boys are different than girls. They are educated in the public and private school systems by women teachers, primarily. They are taught not that they are simply different from girls, but that their natural behavior is aberrant and in need of correction. In short, they are docked for having testosterone. The bias against this chemical continues throughout life.

I'm not the most testosterone charged guy I know. I have plenty, don't worry. I love sports and I like goofing off and I enjoy making fun, in good humor, of other guys. But please don't think I'm advocating some kind of towel-snapping masculinity. Nope. There are aspects of certain brands of manhood that I don't enjoy. And yet I am happy to affirm that testosterone and manliness are good things. It is good for boys to be playful and physical and passionate. They were made by God to be subduers, cultivators, those who take dominion of the earth, those who fight off the enemy, those who kill slithering serpents. We weren't made to be soft and sensitive. We weren't made, in the face of conflict, to go off and journal somewhere and listen to melancholy music. We were made to be tough and strong and fun. We were made to tease girls. Not many girls tease us. They don't have the testosterone we do. They don't have the instinct. They weren't made to climb trees like we are. They weren't made to play football like we are. We were created by the Creator to be fun, tough, playful, and brave. Don't listen for a second when today's society tells you otherwise.

But don't just refuse to listen to societal lies, which are pushed at you from all directions. Rebel against them. Rebel against the attitudes society urges upon you. Don't be a wimp. Don't be a wuss. Don't be in touch. Be tough. Be strong. Be able to take rebuke. Be able to give rebuke. Be able to have fun and get pushed around. Push back. Compete aggressively. Love passionately. Defend your woman. Defend womanhood. Refuse to think that masculinity is soft and sensitive and is defined by sitting in a corner with your thoughts. Refuse to think that life comes to you. Instead, believe that you bring life into being. Use the God-given drive within you to reject passivity and to live passionately. Take off the headphones, stop whining and crying in other guy's shoulders, and be marked as a man of action. The only "getting in touch" you need to be doing is with the tools of manhood.

Men: your testosterone is a good thing. You were made to be strong, courageous, tough, fun, passionate, protective, and a leader. Embrace that role. Take it back from the culture that has stolen it from you.

1 Comments:

Anonymous John Kruk said...

"But don't just refuse to listen to societal lies, which are pushed at you from all directions. Rebel against them. Rebel against the attitudes society urges upon you. Don't be a wimp. Don't be a wuss. Don't be in touch. Be tough. Be strong. Be able to take rebuke. Be able to give rebuke."

Dude with all of this talk of rebelling against social conventions and refusing to be constrained by social mores you sound like Callicles in Plato's Gorgias. Or Nietzsche. Perhaps you should sound a little more like G.K. Chesterton: before overthrowing conventional practices, perhaps one should find out why they were adopted in the first place. One would hate to blow up a concrete wall because it is "constraining" to you personally only to find out it was also constraining a large body of water which immediately drowns you.

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